I've posted before that my son has been delayed by a Speech problem so we are trying to catch up to a lot of things in school.
The other day I was helping him with his work when one of the other kids had a question on her Math. I asked him to hold on for a minute while I answered her question.
I turn my head to help her for about a minute....when I turn back-he had made marks on his page. I say marks because at the time I figured he just starting writing things down.
The lesson was on alphabetical order and he did it correctly!
What I am realizing is-I'm not sure how much he is actually behind. He tends to want me right there with him because as he does the work he wants me to actually say "That's right, good job!" Like he needs that confirmation right away. The other thing I'm seeing is he knows a ton of things that you don't know-that he knows, you know? lol! It is like the alpha order lesson, when I get distracted he just pulls it out of a hat and does it correctly.
So I'm left wondering-Is it me not him? Maybe I'm enabling him to not try harder because I am still in the mind frame that he needs so much help? On Monday, I suppose I will try just giving him the directions then walk away so I'm not there for him to depend on..I shall try it!
-Jules
I had to do that to Dylan. He want's me to be right there and tell him after every problem if it's right or wrong and then praise him for it. It's frustrating because I feel like I can't get anything done. I started walking away and he does the same thing. I think, these boys are smarter than we are sometimes.
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